Well, school starts again next week, and it doesn't look like we will get a referral before then. Obviously we want our referral as soon as possible, but looking on the bright side, it might be easier to manage if the boys are back in school when we do travel. Logistically, that is.
When Jerry and I travel for the first trip, it will probably be easier not to have the boys with us. We will need to meet with the social worker and psychologist and take those tests and all, and if the boys were with us, we would need to have another adult come with us to take care of them during all that. Plus, it would probably be better if we are able to meet and get to know #3 (and #4) without the boys there.
I'm thinking that for the second trip, maybe we all four fly down together, and then Jerry and the boys leave after the first week or so.